Ask Amy: My blood-pressure checks get awkward with female nurses

Dear Amy: I’m a man and getting mixed responses from the women in my life over a recent visit to my doctor for a medical exam.

It is not the first time this has happened, but it continues to be an awkward situation for me.

My visit starts, as usual, with the heart rate and blood pressure check. I’m asked to put my arm on the table toward the person doing the exam.

In my latest exam, my hand bumped up against the lady’s bosom as she positioned the cuff for the blood pressure check.

I asked some of the women in my life how to respond when this happens.

Do I leave my arm where she positioned it or move it away subtly and politely to spare us embarrassment? Then again, is it just me?

My wife said the woman taking my blood pressure probably couldn’t feel it.

My daughter-in-law thinks I should move it.

Anything I do would seem awkward.

Point me in the right direction, Amy.

– A Bit Shy in Montana

Dear Shy: The person measuring your blood pressure is placing your arm for the optimal position for this part of the exam. My instinct is that she/he does this many times a day and doesn’t necessarily notice occasional body-brushes.

However – this makes you uncomfortable, and so you should either instinctively move your arm slightly or say, “Excuse me, can I shift my arm a little bit?”

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